Suicide in the Church, Part 3

Suicide strikes...AGAIN!This may wind up being thehimself as "lord" of his own life. By placing Jesus
most important article some have ever read. IChrist on the throne of our lives, spiritually, we
hope it will not only help a few readers, but that itbecome what the Bible calls "born again" and
will open the eyes of others, aiding in theirwe're completely transformed as we renew our
understanding, motivating them to help. I trustminds. According to the Scriptures, that same
there will be those who will actually clip it, mailing itSpirit that raised Jesus from the dead dwells
to someone for whom they are concerned, orwithin us, His followers. Again, this has been my
posting it in the breakroom.I've written quite a bitexpereince and, I contend, the very answer that
about suicide over the past few weeks and havesomeone somewhere is needing. Your reading of
received some remarkable feedback. I wrote onthis now is no accident.Dust off that old Bible and
the subject because there have been so manylook up the following verses: John 1:12; II
suicides lately and folks wanted answers. If you'veCorinthians 5:17;I Corinthians 2:12; I John
read any of the previous articles, you've seen5:11-13.Jesus said, "Here I am! I stand at the door
some frightening statistics. This subject remainsand knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens
heavy on my heart and continues to be athe door, I will come in and eat with him and he
concern to many.with me" (Revelation 3:20). He's knocking right
For me, it started when a man with whom anow. Open the door.Three Keys to Vicorious
dear friend had been interacting was found in hisLiving1) Talk to God. We call it "prayer" but it's
jail cell with a cable TV wire around his neck.merely conversation with God. TWO-WAY
Then, another friend who led a Bible study tookconversation at that. So, be quiet and listen
his own life. Within days, this was followed by thesometimes.2) Begin reading the Bible. Get to know
suicide of another man who, along with histhe Personality of the one who made came up
spouse, had prayed with and comforted thewith all those Precepts for living life with Power.
previous friend's wife.Saturday, I officiated aYou'll find He's the kindest person you'll ever meet.
wedding 2 hours away. Incredibly, on Sunday, theTalk with Him as if He were your best friend.
father of the bride took his own life.My mind isHe IS!3) Make yourself accountable to those who
reeling as I write.Suicide has a frightening air ofare living the Christian life successfully. Like all
finality. Filled with hopelessness, despair, andbabies, even baby Chrsitians should aspire to
tragedy, it's a word we like to keep at arms'GROW to maturity. In a nutshell, we become that
length. As a whole, society tends to look down itswith which we surround ourselves. Surround
nose at anyone who would commit this gruesomeyourselves with godly people and godly input.What
act. We call them selfish, cowardly...I must admit,if You're Already a Christian?First, ask yourself if
after seeing that beautiful young bride and heryou really ARE a Christian. The word 'Christian'
dashing husband on Saturday, preparing to begintranslates as "Little Christs." Galatians 5:22 tells us
their lives together, if her father were standingwhat the fruits of the Spirit are, the evidence
alive before me now, I'd have a hard timethat God's Spirit resides in us. Too many people
refraining from beating the thunder out of him.believe themselves to be Christians simply
How could he do that to his preciousbecause they believe in God. Scripture declares
daughter?But I recall the day, about 15 years ago,that "even the devil believes, and he trembles."
that suicide entered my thoughts in a differentTruth is, unless we spend time with Him, how can
way. I had just lost my job with a Dallas adwe know Him at all? What relationship works like
agency and my wife had left me, taking our kidsthat? Logically speaking, Church attendence
with her. For the first time in my life, I was alldoesn't make one a Christian any more than going
alone on a Thanksgiving, too broke to join anyto McDonald's makes one a cheeseburger.
family gatherings taking place across the country.Besides, Church is something we ARE 24/7
Our church friends had quickly chosen sides and(meaning: "the called out ones"); it's not merely
had shunned yours truly. It was Thanksgiving Eve,someplace we GO.To those who DO have a
sleeting and raining, about 16 below zero with therelationship with God, the enemy of our souls can
wind chill. I was sleeping on a mattress on thecause any of us to feel depressed and have
floor of a mobile home, my entire worldsuicidal thoughts in a moment of weakness. So
seemingly in shambles all around me. I remembermight a chemical imbalance. It can happen for all
waking up to the whirring sound of ball bearingsof the same reasons mentioned above. The trials
rolling around in the furnace which was nowof life touch everyone, including Believers in
spewing forth cold air. I was dizzy, disoriented,Jesus.If the situation you are in is something you
freezing to death in my sleep, I believe. Takingcan't change, know that God's the Inventor of
my own life with the razor sharp meat clever inDivine Intervention. As hard as it may be to do,
the kitchen was the most natural thought in thecontinue praying for His help and covet the
world to me. I formulated a plan to slit my wrists,prayers of other victorious Christians. Don't stop.
crawl back onto my mattress, and let them findHe does hear our prayers, but His perfect plan
me in the spring. Truly, I was experiencing theand ours aren't always the same. Trust Him to
darkest hour of my soul.But God stepped in. Therespond in a way that will be to your best
atmosphere became charged as it does when ainterest. That includes the possibility that He will
frisky puppy runs into a room or a bunch ofgive you strength and peace to endure your trial
children run through an open screen door to get arather than deliver you from it. He's so much
drink from the kitchen sink on a hot summer day.more concerned about our character than our
"Joy will come in the morning" suddenly echoedcomfort. His number one goal is to conform us to
through my mind. I bundled up and made itthe image of Christ who, Scripture tells us, was
through the night, only to be awakened next dayHimself sent by the Holy Spirit into the wilderness
by a startling crash as a sheet of ice melted andto be tempted by the devil (Jesus is truly our
slid off the metal roof onto the frozen ground. Iexample in EVERY way). Some of God's greatest
looked outside and the sun was glistening off theanswers to prayer come in the form of peace
melting ice everywhere.Life got gradually better.and joy in the midst of great hardship. You can
Incredibly better. Today, I wouldn't trade mine forbelieve that He will see you through every storm
all the world.Truth is, I discovered another optionin your life.Along those lines, take a look at these
to suicide. I found it in the Bible, God's love letterverses: Psalm 23; Psalm 28:7; Isaiah 43:2; Romans
to mankind. You know...that perennially best-selling8:28; Philippians 4:13.We are spirit-beings having an
book most Christians rarely read? The good newsearthly experience. As such, you must ask God
about the current state of depression some mayto fill you with His Spirit to help you tackle life by
be feeling at this moment, is that God reallyHis power. Scripture declares, "You will receive
DOES have a plan for your life - a plan that canpower when the Holy Spirit comes upon you."
only be fulfilled when we give everything over toThe Bible is full of God's promises to love,
Him. Listen, there IS a purpose for your life; astrengthen, heal, and guide.The Purpose-Driven
reason for your existence. Your current, dismal,Life is a Top-Selling book these days. Begin
emotional and spiritual state may be the veryreading God's Word in a Purpose-Driven manner:
springboard you need for discovering just howto discover new insights about His love for you.
valuable you are to Him, how your life can beAsk the Holy Spirit to guide your journey and to
transformed, and how others can be rescued byreveal truths you've never seen before. He's the
YOU.consummate teacher, after all. Accept the fact of
Tough times do NOT last. Tough peopleGod's love for you by faith, NOT by feelings.Look
DO!Perhaps you've asked yourself, "How did I getat these verses and receive them from God
to this point?" The answer? Gradually, just asdirectly to you: John 3:16; Romans 5:8; Isaiah
drops of water will slowly but surley fill a bucket.40:31; Isaiah 41:10; Lamentations 3:22-23.Today's
Everyone goes through periods in their lives whenculture detests any mention of this word, but
they feel down. In time, sadness leaves and lifehere goes: SIN. If you want to walk in victory,
goes on. There are instances, however, whenacknowledge any sin that might be interfering in
tough times, a strained relationship or some otheryour relationship with God. Ask Him to search
problem, leads to unhappiness that keeps us inyour heart and pinpoint any problems. Then,
bondage. When that happens, life can become aconfess and repent of your disobedience and
daily struggle with uneasiness, gloom, andreceive his forgiveness. Confess means "to agree"
emptiness. Ultimately, hopelessness can take hold,and repent means "to change your mind."Here are
creating a feeling of dissatisfaction withsome verses for dealing with sin: I John 1:9; Psalm
everything.Depression is often associated with a139:23-24; Galatians 5:16-25.Help Yourself to some
sense of loss that can come with illness, thehelp!As part of the Body of Christ, you may wish
death of a loved one, sudden unemployment,to consult help from other Body Parts.
divorce, and so on. A chronic illness, or permanentProfessional help in the form of a qualified
disability, can rob one's independence, makingChristian counselor has proven to be one of the
them feel worthless, helpless, and angry. Losingbest ways to fight depression and thoughts of
someone you care about, through death orsuicide. Look in the phone book and make some
divorce, can leave a tremendous void.Guilt iscalls. Ask for references. A good pastoral
another trigger for depression. Perhaps you'recounselor can help you get a new perspective on
struggling with substance abuse or anotheryour problems. Get a medical check-up.
addiction or have made some really bad choicesSometimes depression is caused by a chemical
that you're ashamed of that are about to beimbalance or other biological factor.Seek out a
revealed. A childhood trauma may have left yousupport group made of like-minded believers that
feeling damaged and unworthy of God's love andcan minister to the area of difficulty in your life.
acceptance. Maybe you feel like a failure becauseInteracting with others who are facing similar
you haven't achieved all that you wanted inchallenges will help you feel less isolated.Force
life.Whatever the cause, depression often leads toyourself to do something the next time you feel
a sense of hopelessness. You may feel as thoughdown. Inactivity only makes depression worse.
you're at the end of your rope. You may thinkHere are some things to try:Talk it out. Call a
that ending your life is the only way to takefriend and open up.Take a hike. Exercise causes
control.Trust me, it's not.What's next?blood and oxygen to circulate faster, which
The answer is simple. REALLY simple. You caninvigorates us. The brain produces endorphins that
go on with life as usual, knowing where that mayfight depression.Help someone else. As you focus
lead, or you can get a life. I'm talkin' REAL life. Foryour attention on someone else, your own cares
some, the fact that you're still reading this showswill become less burdensome. I often refer people
that you desire another option. So, here's myto watch "Patch Adams" with Robin Williams, then
answer. Ready? It's my experience that there isreport to me on their findings. Don't judge me on
only one real source of hope for a life of purpose,that; lives have been saved. God can use
fulfillment, and joy.That source has a name...it'sanything.Listen to uplifting music. Choose your
Jesus Christ.It is my firm contention that Jesus isfavorite songs and start jammin'!Here's the good
the answer to every problem known to mankind.news: Whatever you're struggling with at the
To those who are still with me, that's eithermoment, this too shall pass. Whatever it is you're
absolute truth or it's a lie. He said about Hisgoing through, you WILL go through it. Though
followers, "I have come that they may have life,things may actually get worse before they get
and have it to the full" (John 10:10). If thatbetter, they WILL get better as you place them
statement is true, logic screams for us to quicklyin God's hands. Yes, we reap as we sow and
become His followers. We must address thethere may be some really tough consequences
question, "If I'm not living real life, what is THIS?"forthcoming to deal with.
Through a REAL, experiential relationship withBut whatever you do, deal with it!Remember, "All
Jesus Christ, overflowing love, forgiveness, peace,things work together for good for those who
and joy can be ours. Interested? That's a promiselove God and have been called according to His
from God found in the Bible.And God doesn'tpurpose." Translation? God takes care of the lives
lie.Sadly, far too often, even Christians settle forof those who turn their lives over to Him.Resist
Religion and Church attendance over a relationshipany thoughts you may be having about "ending it
with the Creator through Christ's teachings foundall." God has the uncanny ability of taking that
in Scripture.The How-to's of OvercomingI failed towhich seems really bad and making things turn
mention that all the recent local suicides haveout really good.If you'd like to subscribe and
been committed by professing Christians. Didreceive more of pastor Michael's articles by eMail,
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plan in motion requires giving our lives to Him.AsBible teachers worldwide, and have ministered to
Bob Dylan sang, "We're gonna serve somebody."the Body of Christ of nearly every major
Even the atheist serves himself, enthroningdenomination.